Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Special Olympics Bocce Ball Volunteering

It was a cool Saturday morning, with the sun hanging low in the sky. I arrived at Stevenson at around 7:58 A.M, wearing a zip up hoodie over a t-shirt. Walking over to the end of the field, I saw a small crowd of people standing near the fence. I joined them, and made sure to sign in so that there was evidence that I was volunteering at the Special Olympics bocce ball tournament. Barely 30 minutes had passed by and the morning was already starting to get hotter. I noticed some peers from my class were also there. I joined them, and the four of us became a team. After standing around and waiting in awkward silence, the coordinator spoke and t-shirts were passed out. I picked a shirt off the table and began heading towards the bathrooms to change. I swung open the door to the men’s bathroom, and in full view were a bunch of shirtless guys with the same idea. Lo and behold, the only stall in the entire bathroom was occupied. Some of the guys looked at me. I promptly turned back around and walked the other way. Everyone else was already wearing their volunteer shirts. After a few minutes had passed, I tried again-- upon entering the bathroom once more, there weren’t any shirtless guys crowding the small space but the stall was still occupied. I decided to stand by it and wait. More awkwardness ensued-- one of the people using the urinals was mooning everyone, there was a pungent smell in the air, and after the person in the stall was finally done, another person sprinted in with lightning speed, cut in front of me, and slammed the door shut. Not wanting to wait any longer, I decided to just leave the bathroom and figure something else out. In the end, I just decided to put the shirt over what I was already wearing. Soon thereafter, my team and I walked over to a spot in the middle of the field and began setting up our court.

(it looks sort of like this, but with longer grass and white rope).

After about 15 minutes, my group and I were able to set up the court and we went over the rules. Afterwards we were assigned our first athletes. We walked them to our court from the tents, and started the game. The game started with a coin toss-- whoever won got to go first. My team and I had to make sure that all of the rules were being followed, and we used a small red flag to indicate the position of the ball if it was hard to see for the athletes. At the end of each round we counted up the points, and sometimes we had to use a measuring tape if we were unsure as to whether one of the athletes’ balls counted in or not. After points were added up, we switched sides and started again. This process kept going until one of the players had 12 points, or if we ran out of time (30 minutes was the max). Surprisingly, not a single game that day went to 30 minutes. During the game, we cheered the athletes on and sometimes applauded whenever the athletes threw a really good toss. Another thing-- most of them were insanely good at bocce ball. So I must’ve said, “Nice!” and “That was a great toss!” and “Sweet!” about hundreds of times that day. One athlete that I remember well was Martha-- she had brought her boyfriend with her and his support was so sweet. She ended up in the finale I think. Something else that I remember distinctly-- every time we walked a new athlete(s) to our court, I would always strike up a conversation with them: “Nice to meet you guys! What are your names?” and “How long have you been playing bocce ball for?” and “Do you play any other sports?”
At around 10-11 AM, Subway sandwiches were passed out and we couldn’t just stop what we were doing, so we had to coordinate the games while trying to eat-- a feat that proved slightly difficult. Rounds ended after a couple of minutes, and we had to gather up the balls afterwards so I had to hold onto two to four 2-pound balls while still holding my sandwich and carry the balls across the court.

Later on in the day, we decided to alternate taking mini-breaks since we were getting pretty exhausted. On my break, I made the mistake of lying face-up on the grass, with the sun directly overhead, slowly scorching my skin, unbeknownst to me at the time. I had chosen to not wear any sunscreen that day. This was a mistake that I would regret several hours later. After my break, I joined back in and continued coordinating the games.
Sometime during the day, I remember dropping one of the bocce balls on my finger-- a rather painful experience. Though they are only 2 pounds, these balls are capable of quite some damage. The singles games turned into doubles, and now teams were competing against each other. Many times teams weren’t sure when they were supposed to go, so throughout the day we had to tell them (and the individual athletes) some of the rules regularly. Though I was happy to help them and explain some of the rules to them, it became a bit wearying saying the same things over and over again. By the time all the competitions were done and our court was packed up at around 2:40-3:30, I was glad that everything was done. The athletes’ months (and/or years) of practice had paid off terrifically, they received their awards, had a good time, and it was time to go home.
I came home at around 4:00, and one of the first things my mom said upon seeing me was how red my face was. I headed for the mirror and saw that my face had indeed become a glowing tomato. A bruise didn’t end up forming on my finger, but my face did sting for the next few days. Overall, this was a great experience that I don’t regret. Despite what doubts society may have about the abilities of people with disabilities, individuals like those in the Special Olympics help quash these types of misconceptions and stereotypes.


Thursday, May 4, 2017

Nature & Nurture, Agents of Socialization, and Gender

Do you ever look around and wonder, “How did America become what it is today?” I think about this often. How could there be so many narrow-minded, rancorous, willfully ignorant, bigoted, malicious, supremacist, acrimonious conservatives who hold such animosity and loathing towards those who are unlike themselves? How could someone who fulfills most, if not all of these labels, become the leader of a “modern” nation? Part of the answer lies within agents of socialization-- groups that we are a part of that shape us significantly throughout our lives. These include family, school, peers, and media we’re perpetually bombarded with. Agents of socialization play a strong role in the nurture process, that is, the extent to which our environment shapes us. Nature on the other hand, is how our biology shapes us. This includes predispositions to certain ailments, or our physical characteristics (such as the probability you could get cancer, the color of your hair, etc.).

We’re all born with an awareness of our emotions and with the capability to learn. That is, we’re born with an aptitude to connect with others humans. What makes us different from most other species is that our cerebral cortex allows for conscious thinking, making us aware of our thoughts and choices. In other words, what makes us human is the fact that we are nurtured-- and as a result, we are aware of our emotions. You wouldn’t be the person you are today without other people-- humans are intrinsically social creatures. Take for example the reading, “What is Human Nature?”-- in it, the author explains how “If an individual lacks language, they live in an isolated world, a world of internal silence, without shared ideas without connection to others.” They used some examples of “feral children,” those who were abandoned or lost by their parents at an early age and raised by animals. When they were discovered, they had animalistic behaviors, were unable to speak, and had very low intelligence. Even in the cases of children who grew up in orphanages--”The babies were kept in standard hospital cribs [...] that effectively limited visual stimulation. No toys or other objects were hung in the infants’ line of vision. Human interactions were limited to busy nurses [...].” Those children ended up having a significantly lower intelligence because they were raised with limited social interaction.

To reiterate, nurture plays a crucial role in our lives with regards to agents of socialization-- but what are these agents? As stated earlier, they can include family, school, peers, the media, and any group that you are a part of that influences you. The first group to have a major impact on us is our family--”They lay down our basic sense of self, establishing our initial motivations, values, and beliefs. They give us ideas about who we are and what we deserve out of life,” according to the article we read on Agents of Socialization. Because of this, I picked up several manifest and latent lessons from my parents at a young age. Manifest lessons, or things they purposefully nurtured into me, included how to communicate with others, how to eat with a fork and knife, morals, why not to cut up money ($17 to be exact), etc. Some latent lessons, or things they unintentionally nurtured into me, included my self-worth, a fixed mindset, and how I was supposed to behave (gentle, docile, nice, etc.), which happens to be included in the whopping can of gender roles that we latently learn from other vehicles of socialization. In school, not only are we unintentionally taught to be nationalistic (reciting a daily pledge about how fantastic our country is) while manifestly being taught mathematics and whatnot, but we also involuntary pick up on inane rules as to how we're supposed to behave based on the gender we’re assigned at birth.
For example, teachers seeing two boys “rough-housing” and saying, “boys will be boys,”
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or creating austere dress codes that primarily target young girls and teach them that their bodies are inherently wrong, and are something that they need to cover up. Boys on the other hand, can practically go shirtless without teachers giving it much thought.

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Perhaps the biggest agent of socialization is the media-- TV, movies, advertisements, etc. They latently tell us what a “normal” person should be like-- how they're supposed to look (especially young girls and women), what they're supposed to eat, how much sex they’re supposed to have, what kind of people are considered “normal” (straight, white, cisgender people), what they’re supposed to buy, etc. The media hypersexualizes women and promotes toxic masculinity, further re-enforcing archaic gender roles.19f13f9ee3b5dccd51b350ad23ffc2f9.jpg                tumblr_lxy89r1XBK1qzdrqro3_1280.jpgfc9f032c301858e975285faaeb489de8.jpg                          930d83da557b02a2357965d3f693ad88.jpg
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By doing this, not only does the media bring people up with narrow-minded attitudes, but it makes people who don’t fit into the media’s definition of “normal” feel inferior and unwanted. Representation of minority groups is essential and desperately needed, but unfortunately we don’t see it enough. If you don’t see anyone like you in TV or in films, you start to think that maybe your story doesn’t deserve to be told or doesn’t need to be told. The media can act as both a mirror and a sliding glass door; they can reflect our stories and show us others like us, and they can allow us to open a door and step into a new world where we learn the stories of other people. If you only see straight, white, cisgender, able-bodied people in the media, whether you like it or not, that unintentionally becomes your definition of “normal.” Take for example the current president of the United States; he primarily gets his information from a notoriously conservative news network, thereby limiting his information and perspective on the world by viewing it through a narrow-minded lens.
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Media had the power to skew our ideas of other people in a negative way, but it can also uplift those who are part of a minority group.

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Agents of socialization play a strong role in the nurture process. Sometimes they nurture you purposefully, and oftentimes they nurture you unintentionally.


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